What's Your Relationship to Money?

Dive deep into the intricate relationship with wealth in this insightful episode of Wealth Consciousness. Join us as we embark on a journey of introspection and exploration, aiming to unravel the complexities surrounding money and its profound impact on our lives. Through guided exercises and thought-provoking discussions, we strive to illuminate the path towards a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with wealth.

Key Topics:

• Present Moment Awareness: Discover the power of presence in fostering relaxation, clarity, and insight.
• Family Stories: Examine the influence of familial narratives on our beliefs and behaviors regarding money.
• Changing Perspectives: Challenge yourself to adopt new attitudes and perspectives towards wealth and abundance.
• Healthy Relationships: Learn to identify and cultivate the characteristics of a thriving relationship with money.
• Visualizing Ideal Wealth: Shift focus from material possessions to envisioning the qualities of a secure and sustainable financial future.
• Self-Reflection: Engage in introspection to discern your current state of wealth consciousness and identify areas for growth.
• Belief and Manifestation: Embrace the notion that true abundance stems from self-belief and alignment with our highest selves.

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Transcript

Welcome to Wealth Consciousness, where we take the inner intuitive journey to living your heart's desire. I'm your host, Susan Hansted, therapist by training entrepreneur by nature. In each episode, we will start the dialogue necessary to understand that to scale your business, you must scale your heart, mind, and soul. We will uplevel the goal setting, dig deep, strengthen your discipline conversation to a how-to clear path, to deconstructing your habits and training your mind to release the limiting beliefs and live in limitless possibility. Your extraordinary life is right around the corner. It's really quite easy once you learn to trust yourself. Join me now in your next breath.

Hello and welcome to this episode of Wealth Consciousness. As always, I'm super excited to be with you here today because we're going to talk about money. Money always brings a myriad of emotions. So we are going to create some insight today, you and I together. But before we get started, as always, I would love for you to drop into this present moment. And typically what we do to find our way to this present moment is put away all the distractions. So if you'll put away your cell phone, if you will turn away from your computer at this moment or perhaps just close your eyes and be present to bringing all of your attention to gaining some insight that you might be able to use in your next breath. So we start off with this idea that relaxation helps us to quiet the mind, to bring the body to a more comfortable state so that we can receive, we can receive relaxation, can receive clarity.

Perhaps we might even receive insight. So I'm going to ask you to do something a little bit differently today. Usually we do just a teeny bit of breath work, but today I'm going to ask you just to close your eyes and pay attention to your breath. And what the idea here is, is that as you are listening for your inhale and your exhale, that it will be very difficult to have forced thinking and rumination at the exact same time. So I'm going to ask you to close your eyes just for a few moments. I'm going to ask you to go to that quiet place within and just listen for your inhale and then listen for your exhale.

And as you're paying attention to your breath, even now, perhaps you'll slow your breath down just a little bit because you're actually giving it your attention. And I'd like you to see if perhaps you could even count to really bring your attention to this. So breathing in as a wand, breathing out as a two, breathing in as a three, and starting to notice that as you close your eyes, you are able to change the channel, change the channel from whatever you were doing, and then also bring your attention to if you're going to spend your time listening to this podcast, then get something that you really need out of it.

So now as you've had a chance to pay attention to your breath, perhaps you would even put me on pause so that you could go ahead and spend more time with your breath. But when you're ready, go ahead and open your eyes, bring your breath back to your natural rhythm of breathing and allow yourself to be present to this conversation. And again, my intention always is to bring some kind of insight in this podcast that you'll receive and that you'll take into your day and with your next breath so that it brings more enjoyment to your life, more clarity to your life, more focus to your vision. So today we're going to talk about your relationship to money.

And I am wondering, if you were to think about your relationship to money, like you think about a relationship with a person, then what would you entitle your relationship to money? Would it be you're in a long-term marriage that's super reliable, but perhaps in the same habit for many years? Or would it be more like we're just dating, keeping it light, maybe not too serious? Or would you say that your relationship to money is that you're abstaining from any relationship at all that you're keeping money at bay? Or would you say that perhaps you're just staying single on your own with little challenge to your current thinking? In other words, leave me alone. Let me do it my way.

So why it's important to look at our relationship with money is that each one of those sort of statuses or the state of a relationship might actually describe something a little bit differently. In other words, whichever name you pick that describes your relationship to money, it may have some pros, but it also may have some cons. And why we want to look at our relationship to money is because we are taking that relationship and that story into our business, into our health, into our ability to make money and have impact in the world and even into our spiritual connection.

And so take a minute, think for yourself, what's your relationship to money? And if you're having a hard time figuring out what the name is that you would choose for your relationship to money, then I'd like you to start to think about what's this family story? What's your family story perhaps in your current family and then maybe even in the family you were raised in? What's your family story about money? Who gets to have money? Is it that good people get to have money or that bad people have money? Is it that there's been a message that it's harder for a rich man to get into heaven?

Or that nice people don't think about money? But I'd like to challenge you to really sit down and think about what's your family story and then how do you relate to that today? Do you relate to that in a way that you're still buying into that family story that it makes a lot of sense to you? Or is it that you're actually living in reaction to that story? In other words, you're going to do the opposite of whatever it was that you learned in your family in relationship to money. And the funny thing is that most people in their actual interpersonal relationships find people that are typically on the other side of their relationship to money. In other words, are you the saver? Are you the spender? And are you in a relationship with the spender or the saver? So the reason why we want to look at this idea is that if you want to scale your business and take it to its next level, we often have the conversation about adding a zero and all the uncomfortability that comes when we look at planning for revenue goals and then adding a zero.

So if you want to scale your business, take it to its next level. If you want to add that zero, we're going to have to clear out some of that money story, and we're going to have to clean up our relationship to money because how are you supposed to scale a business if you don't have a functioning healthy relationship to money? And so I'd like for you to start to think about this idea of what would you have to believe to be open to changing your set point for wealth? And again, we're talking about wealth in your health, in your relationships, in your spiritual connection, in your finances or your impact in the world. We're talking about a holistic approach to wealth. But I'd like to challenge you with this today. If you were to choose to try on perhaps your partner, your business partner, or your interpersonal partner's relationship to money, if you were just going to try it on how would your life look differently?

In other words, if you're the saver, what would it look like to try on the spender? How would that change things in your life? And then also, if we take that same concept into our business and we say, I'm going to try on this idea that scaling to the next level my relationship to receiving more money into my business, perhaps serving more people or bringing financial freedom to more people. But what would it look like if I were to try on a new attitude about money in my business? Now, I don't know how that would affect you because I don't know that there's any one answer to that. But if we start to give our attention to pay attention to the story that we have sort of unconsciously carried with us, when we bring that story from our unconscious mind to the conscious mind, we immediately create change just by paying attention to it.

So in other words, even when you just start to think about your family's story about money, you'll start to notice that you have some new perspective. And so here's what I'd like to challenge you with. First, that you take a look at your relationship to money today. Give it a current state name. Give it a label of what status your relationship to money is in today. And then I'd like you to look at the story that supports that. What's your family story or what's your response to your family story that supports your current state of relationship to money? And then here's the big challenge I'd like for you to look around for evidence, for healthy relationships. Now, I'd love for you to look around for healthy relationships just in general, and then also for healthy relationships to money. In other words, what are the characteristics that you would think would define a healthy relationship to money?

Now, here's the funny thing. Whatever we look for, we find. So if you were to say, today, I'm going to look for people that I think have happy relationships, loving relationships where they receive care, where they give care, where they give their attention, where they give service. Perhaps even I'd like for you to notice that as soon as you start to look for that, you will find evidence of it. Because when we're looking for something that sort of proves our business case, the subconscious mind goes to work to find it everywhere you look. Now, you could also take the flip side of that, and you could say that if you were looking for unhealthy relationships or unhealthy relationships to money or unhealthy relationships to the current economy, then you could probably find evidence for that everywhere too. So I say put that unconscious mind to work to serve you.

So I'd like for you to look for characteristics of a healthy relationship to money. Now, each one of us might say that that means something different, but here's my challenge to you. You're going to look for healthy characteristics of a loving relationship in general, and then we're going to look at how that affects our relationship to money. And then look for what we might think would be healthy characteristics. And so what I'd like you to do from there is take those healthy characteristics and build your own picture of what you think would be ideal, your ideal relationship to money. But here's the twist. I don't want you to think about cars or homes or things or even a dollar amount in your checking account right now. What I'd like for you to look for is the characteristics of a healthy relationship to money that creates peace of mind, security, sustainability, the ability to rely on, because the place where we find exponential growth in ourselves and in our business comes from investing in knowing ourselves and learning to trust ourselves and our capabilities at a new level.

And so I'd like for you to look for what would be ideal so that you would be in your highest self so that you would be in that creative place that only comes when we are not up against the wall, stressed out of our mind, and even trying to chase after the discipline of creating money or creating a relationship. And so it's a big challenge today for you. Look to see where you can increase feed into grow your relationship to money by looking for what you think would be ideal based on the characteristics of healthy relationship to money. And start to look at this idea of creating a picture in your mind and in your knowingness, literally in your body, in the cells of your body, that knowingness of what a healthy relationship to money would be, and in that relationship, what you would enjoy.

So today I've offered a couple of different things to think about. What would you say your relationship to money is, your current state, how you can see how you've been keeping that state in place by looking at your family story and how you respond to it. And then looking at the ability to find in the world because you are specifically seeking it out, what healthy looks like, what thriving looks like, and how that can get you to those characteristics of a healthy relationship to money, a thriving relationship that gives you a new level to receive. And so today, that's my challenge to you. I hope that you've gained insight in this podcast. I hope you'll share it with a friend. And then I want to remind you that in everything we seek to grow our businesses, our relationships, our spiritual connection, our financial impact in the world all comes from how we think about ourselves. So you will have it when you believe it. Thank you for listening to today's episode. I'm so grateful to have you here with me. If you love today's content and you want to share your inspiration, feel free to rate us and review us. Take a screenshot of that review and send it to info at Institute of Possibility Thinking. And we'll send you a masterclass releasing the Habit of rumination as our gift. Looking forward to being with you on our next episode. And until then, you have everything you need within you.