The Gap Is Your Tolerations

Welcome back to another enriching episode of Wealth Consciousness, where we embark on a journey to uncover the keys to unlocking our true desires and potential. In today's session, we delve deep into the importance of reconnecting with our heart's desires and shedding light on the tolerances we often unknowingly accept in our lives. Through insightful discussions and practical strategies, we aim to equip you with the tools needed to bridge the gap between where you currently stand and where you aspire to be. So, let's take a moment to pause, breathe, and explore the profound wisdom waiting to be discovered within.

Key Points Covered in this Episode:

• The significance of stepping away from distractions and embracing a moment of stillness to absorb valuable insights.
• Understanding the role of tolerances in our lives and how they can hinder our progress towards fulfillment.
• Reconnecting with our heart's desires and recognizing the unique gifts and talents that propel us towards our goals.
• Reflecting on the idea that pursuing our true desires is not selfish but rather a vital component of living authentically.
• Embracing the notion that it is our birthright to pursue our passions and contribute meaningfully to the world.
• Considering how embodying our best selves positively impacts our relationships and interactions with others.
• Encouragement to take action and dismantle tolerances that obstruct our path to personal and professional fulfillment.

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Transcript

Welcome to Wealth Consciousness, where we take the inner intuitive journey to living your heart's desire. I'm your host, Susan Hansted, therapist by training entrepreneur by nature. In each episode, we will start the dialogue necessary to understand that to scale your business, you must scale your heart, mind, and soul. We will uplevel the goal setting, dig deep, strengthen your discipline conversation to a how-to clear path, to deconstructing your habits and training your mind to release the limiting beliefs and live in limitless possibility. Your extraordinary life is right around the corner. It's really quite easy once you learn to trust yourself. Join me now in your next breath.

Hello and welcome to this episode of Wealth Consciousness. I'm always super excited to get to be with you, and so I'm going to invite you as always to leave the scroll behind to allow yourself to take a moment to just listen and not do anything else. No multitasking, no scrolling, no computer use, no cell phone. Use none of the above. Just take a moment to take in some insights that I have to offer to you today in hopes that they will feed your soul, nourish your mind, and allow you to have a few tools to take with you throughout your day.

Maybe by now you just relax at the start of the music of this podcast. That would be great, wouldn't it? If each time we've taken a breath in this podcast that it's taught you to just sort of listen for that music when it starts and take a nice, big, deep breath. But what I'm going to ask today in the nature of taking a breath in this work is so that we can come to a place within our mind, our body, and our spirit where we can settle in, where we can feel comfortable, where we can take a moment to relax, to have clarity, to gain just a little bit of respite and rejuvenation before we move on to our next task. So I'm going to ask you not to do any fancy breath work, but just to take a moment, close your eyes to try to turn down the noise of the day, see if you can successfully stop all movement and just have silence.

See if you could just pay attention to your breath and perhaps even see you could elongate the inhale, elongate the exhale. Just notice if you can sort of cajole yourself into relaxation, because when we are relaxed, we can receive information better. We can allow the body to know that it can trust us that we're not going to keep it in fight or flight all day long, adrenalized, caffeinated, but instead allowing the body to trust that yes, you could close your eyes or you could take deeper breaths or you could use longer exhales. And with that, allow yourself to reset. So taking in a few deep breaths, and then again, allowing that breath on the exhale to find its trail to its end before breathing in again, deeply allow yourself to reset. Allow yourself to take a moment to just be quiet.

And then when you've taken a few deep breaths, and I'm going to invite you to breathe until you can feel your shoulders drop or maybe your jaw, unc unclench, or perhaps even to get you to just sit still. So we're going to do just one thing right now. We're just breathing. And now as you find yourself bringing your attention to this conversation, go ahead. Allow yourself to return to your normal rhythm of breathing. Perhaps it's slowed down just a little bit. And then open your eyes to this present moment. I read a great quote from a series of quotes from Charlie Chaplin, and all of these quotes start with as I began to love myself. And so this particular quote that really struck me goes like this. As I began to love myself, I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today. I know this is authenticity. Charlie Chaplin, I was struck by that quote because so much of what we focus on in our programs at the Institute of Possibility Thinking is knowing what we want and having that be a reflection of who we are. So it's so important to understand and to know who we are and what it is we want, but it seems kind of like in this quote from Charlie Chaplin, that knowing what you want or getting what you want seems to be an uncomfortable or unpopular topic.

Yet in our programs, again, we place a great deal of importance on knowing who you are and what you want, because the premise is that when we're living from our heart's desire, when we're in our best and highest self, then we are the best contribution to our world, to our health, to our finances, to our impact in the world, to our relationships, to our community, to our spirituality. And so one of the things that I notice about this resistance to knowing who you are and what you want is that sometimes members will say, well, it feels selfish to just think about getting what I want. And yet what I want to offer today is an insight. Is it selfish to think about or know what you want? Or is it selfish to not know? Because as we interact with others, we either are clear and direct and transparent and forthright so that people know exactly who we are, what we want, and how to treat us, or are people having to guess or are we hoping they'll know even if we don't tell them?

And so one of the things that I see is that the only difference between where we are today and where we'd like to be is whatever it is that we're tolerating. Now, this comes up a lot in our programs because it's just true of human nature. We tend to be beings that will practice. Now, I'm not sure why that's true, and I don't think it's important to know the why, but I think it is important to understand that the only gap or difference between where we are today and where we want to be is tolerance. It's in our tolerances. And so we can reduce our tolerances when we bring our awareness to them, and we can also reduce our tolerances and reduce the gap by taking action. So I wanted to give you four things that you can think about today to help you to reduce your tolerations and close that gap between where you are today in your business, in your relationships, in your health, in your finances, in your impact in the world, in your community that you could use in your next breath.

So the first thing that I'd like to remind you of that we work on in our programs is returning to your heart's desire. But the funny thing is that when I ask members, when they first are coming into our programs, what do you want? They aren't sure, they're not clear, and they definitely don't have a readily available answer. Now, we seem to attract high achievers, entrepreneurs, investors, syndicators, small business owners that have a pretty high bar for themselves in their businesses, for their impact in the world especially. And yet what I notice is that it's sort of uncomfortable when I ask them, do you know what you want?

And then when I ask them, well, what's the thing about you that's going to get you there to that place that you want when you're clear about it? And that's where it becomes a little unclear too. So here's the first thing that I'd like to offer for you to think about is to return to your heart's desire. Know exactly who you are. In other words, write down your gifts and talents. What's the special thing about you that's not only going to be effective in your day today, in your business and in your relationships, but also in your goals to get you to your end game? I want you to think about what's your fingerprint? What's the special imprint that you can make again on your day in your business that is just yours? So thinking about returning to your heart's desire, that's the first thing I want you to think about.

And then secondly, tolerances are sort of an untruth. So if you think about it, would you really want someone to sort of bear being with you or would you want their truthful attention, interest, intention? And so when we think about it, when we think that by managing a tolerance or staying in a tolerance or perhaps even feeding a tolerance, that we're actually doing somebody or ourselves a favor. But the funny thing about it is we're doing quite the opposite. We're not offering our true self in our gifts and talents, and then we're not really available for truth from others either. That's a tough one, but I'd like to challenge you to think about it. And then number three, it's your birthright to live in your heart's desire. Or why else would you be drawn to the things that you love and the things that you want to be a part of?

Why would you be drawn to the projects, to the philanthropic efforts, to the business that you're in to offering freedom or impact in other people's lives if that wasn't driven from your own heart's desire? It typically is a conversation that we have when we kind of look at this idea of what did you come here to do? And if you have a strong feeling about what you came here to do, I'm going to believe that's your birthright, and that's where your gifts and talents lie. And so we need you actually to be in the highest version of you.

And then number four, I'd like you to think about the idea that if you are not working in your heart's desire, if you don't know really who you are or what you want, if you are living in tolerances and living in sort of allowing for tolerances to remain in place, doesn't your business partner, your spouse, your coworkers, your employees deserve? Don't they deserve to be in relationship to your best and highest self? So I'd like us to think about these things because I'd like us to think about the idea that every day with our thoughts, we are creating our experience. And so if we can, let's remind ourselves to return to our heart's desire. Know who you are if it helps, write down your gifts and talents. Write down the special thing about just you. And then take a look at where you have tolerations.

In other words, the gap between where you are today and where you'd like to be in your goals, in your finances, in your business. And take a look at those tolerances as untruths and then take a look at what you'd have to do to allow yourself to be truthful and release those tolerances. And then thirdly, let's think about this idea of your birthright. That it's your birthright to have a mission that you came here with. And that mission shows up in the things that light your heart on fire, the things that make you want to work a little bit longer because you're just so excited to be able to contribute or to come to an end or create freedom for others or for yourself. So I'd like you to think about it being in your birthright to be in the highest version of you. And then fourthly, think about this idea that the people around you, your business partners, your spouse, your coworkers, your employees, they really deserve to have the highest version of you. And so if they don't have the highest version of you, will you actually be getting the highest version of them?

So these are super big thoughts to think about today, but I want to offer again that the difference between where you are today and where you want to be is just tolerations something that you're tolerating. And then the way to move through those tolerations is to take action. So every day we think and speak our experience into our life. So let's make it a good day. Until next time, thank you for listening to today's episode. I'm so grateful to have you here with me. If you'd love today's content and you want to share your inspiration, feel free to rate us and review us. Take a screenshot of that review and send it to info at Institute of Possibility Thinking. And we'll send you a masterclass releasing the Habit of rumination as our gift. Looking forward to being with you on our next episode. And until then, you have everything you need within you.